Hi Everyone! How was your week 16/52?
This was an introspective week for me. After reading Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, I realized that I’m still too involved in Mark, my Mom, and some of my friends’ lives.
I like to solve other people’s problems because it’s a great excuse for me to not tackle my own. Additionally, I’ll get praised for being a good wife, daughter, and friend.
In receiving the short-term gratification of helping people I love and care about, I also create the long-term problem of making myself a burden by not focusing my energy on solving my own problems. Melody equates people with an eating disorder to having similar negative effects on loved ones as an alcoholic!
Melody repeatedly emphasizes that “You are not responsible for making other people “see the light,” and you do not need to “set them straight.” You are responsible for helping yourself see the light and for setting yourself straight.”
For the remaining weeks of 2022, I’m going to follow Melody’s advice of setting myself straight. I’m revising my 2022 goals to focus on some of my biggest problems: my binge eating disorder, my career, and my long-life habit of avoiding physical activity.
My Revised 2022 Weekly Personal Goals
Goal #1: Manage my binge eating disorder. Every day, I will track my calories to eat between 1200 to 1700 calories a day. I will record what I eat and post it to this blog to help me better understand what causes me to binge eat.
Goal #2: Write consistently. 5 to 7 days a week, I will read and follow My 2022 Writing Manifesto.
Goal #3: Maintain my mental health. 5 to 7 days a week, I will sing three positive songs and sleep before 11:30 PM.
Goal #4: Maintain my physical health. 5 to 7 days a week, I will meditate for 2 minutes, practice 25 minutes of yoga, and do 10 minutes of weight lifting or cardio.
Goal #5: Read books to gain knowledge and new perspectives. 5 to 7 days a week, I will read for 30 minutes and I will write down my favorite passage of the week on this blog.
Goal #6: Become more organized. 5 to 7 days a week, I will spend 10 to 30 minutes organizing.
Goal #7: Become more physically active. Every week, I will do 1 physical activity like hiking, table tennis, swimming, etc.
Goal #8: Improve my listening skills: Every week, I will listen to one podcast or TED talk, and write down what I learned in 1 to 5 sentences.
Goal #9: Emulate Krista Tippet’s (Winner of the National Humanities Medal, Peabody Awards, Webby Awards) way of speaking. Every week, I will listen to Debbie Millman interviewing Krista Tippet and record a passage of Krista’s that I want to emulate.
Goal #10: Remember my late father through cooking. Every week, I will post one recipe to this blog to remember him.
I will start tracking these new goals starting Week 17 of 52. For the rest of 2022, I hope to focus on a sustainable trajectory towards developing the habits that will help me successfully manage my binge eating disorder, become a prolific writer, and incorporate physical activity into my daily life. 😃
P.S. On Sat 4/23, I hiked the Bear Mountain Major Welch Trail with Mark, Maverick, and Sure Sure. It’s the first 4.1-mile hard hike that I ever attempted and completed! It took me over a year of hiking easy and moderate trails to be able to do this.